Rejected Marriage Proposals are an example of two people having an extreme opposite Polar stance

Youtube holes are crazy. They can take you down a topic you peripherally or tangentially were exploring and send you down a rabbit hole of becoming a video researcher. These Youtube binges often lead to strange places, watching footage on topics you’d not thought about ever.

However, there is one thing I love about youtube’s potential. The internet in general. Sometimes you think of a topic, a site, an occurrence, an item ad you fabricate a scenario in your head. Type that into Youtube and you can definitely be watching the thing you have just invented in your head. It exists, and it’s on the internet.

This can take place to a frustrating degree. If you are a creative person who likes to make things, you may find that ideas you had that are original, unique, and brilliant are already on the internet in a more creative, more comprehensive, and fully executed form. This can be quite devastating it can also often save you a lot of work.

One topic I set out to find on purpose was watching failed marriage proposals. I thought I’d watch a good one or two, but I stumbled upon a shocking number of them available. There were multiple 40-minute compilations of failed proposals. I really enjoy human drama, real-life drama. There are many brilliant Directors who with a good budget and trained actors can translate a well-written script into a stunning emotional journey. This journey can be poetic, symbolic, artistic, beautiful, and full of slices of life that feel fantastically well earned, almost magical. However throw any three humans in a store while it’s getting robbed, and what you will witness in terms of action and behavior will be mesmerizing. We are a tv-binging HD society obsessed with celebrity culture. Yet we would all strain our eyes to witness the action going on in a surveillance video.

This is because human beings and the way they behave are fascinating and we are fascinated by them. Out of narcissism maybe, but we are interesting creatures to observe, People watching is amazing.

So anyway, I feel there is an inordinate amount to be learned from watching things on youtube. In regards to human behaviors. Given that I fully intend on never having a marriage proposal rejected, I wanted to familiarize myself with some of the telltale warning signs. I’m proud to say that most of the mistakes made, I would not make.

First of all, asking someone to marry you should be a formality. It should have been discussed many times before, inferred, insinuated, etc. There should be no huge question mark in your mind. If there is, You’re doing it wrong. If you are on the fence, you should not continue to do the mistakes these other men commonly make.

Duration of time. A lot of the proposals start out by announcing how amazing the time spent with their partner has been. Sometimes this time period is laughably little. “The last three months have been the most amazing of my life.” This is not a good move. They say that 9 months into a relationship is the “puppy love phase” or “honeymoon phase” This refers to the time period where the relationship is still new and the brain chemicals at play are still enticed and enamored with the relationship’s newness. For this reason, the time period after 9 months is a crucial one, for seeing the extent to which compatibility and dynamics are at play, as opposed to a relationship’s novelty.

For some reason, the men asking women to propose after an audaciously short period of time, are usually dating someone way out of their league. This could explain the fact that they’re trying to propose so early, as they may see it as their only chance to lock down someone they view as substantially outside their reach.

Spectators are a huge mistake that a lot of men make. “I’m proposing in 5 minutes guys,” an excited guy says gathering a crowd to fully witness the most humiliating moment of his life. The crowd usually looks vaguely enthused, welcoming this postponement of their trip to Yankee Candle by 10 minutes, to get priceless footage. I always watch this part in awe, thinking that the guy is actively building the degree of his humiliation.

One thing I cannot believe is when the women try to stop the man from proposing, but they continue through. One man was generously lifted from his knee by his girlfriend to spare him the embarrassment. “Don’t do this” she says to him subtly in front of the crowd of maybe 50 people. “ I have to” he states and bulldozes through. At this point, the woman then grabs the ukelele that one of the hired band members is playing for her (yeah), and smacks the guy on the head with it. She was so embarrassed and tried to spare them both. The embarrassment and cringe manifested this way. The man lay on the floor motionless for a little bit in full view of the crowd he had enthusiastically built just moments earlier.

The moment where the crowd senses it’s going to be a failed marriage proposal is very interesting, the tide slowly turns and you can see a range of emotions. Amazement, schadenfreude, empathy, support. it’s all there. It’s an interesting thing to witness.

As a palette cleanser to this brutal compilation, I watched some failed marriage proposals. These were not rejections but ones were very unfortunate things happened. For instance, this one fellow proposed to his thrilled wife on a lovely bridge in nature. He immediately proceeds to drop the diamond ring into the flowing river. It’s instantly gone as the newly engaged couple watch in disbelief as the expensive symbol of their love is taken down the river. I definitely ended up looking up diamond ring insurance policies out of sheer morbid curiosity, and to find a mental solution for this couple that would allow me to sleep easy. After all, this video filmed 6 years ago was super stressful to me.

This brings me to my last thought. Diamonds are ridiculous. Symbols of love, perhaps. But they are so wasteful and not really rare. I’m going to drop a video below of an iconic and successful proposal that not only didn’t involve diamond rings with sketchy exploitative sourcing but a completely biodegradable version.

Oh, the Simpsons!.

So wedding rejections are interesting because one person is saying “I love you, I want to spend the rest of my life with you, you’re perfect, you are fairytale-like in the way you make me feel.” The recipient of this proposal is thinking “I never want to see this guy again, I need to start running to end this iconically nightmarish moment” Wow. Beautiful.

Below is a long compilation of rejected proposals with the one I described above being at 12:12. Amazingly I left out a hilarious mall train cameo from my description.

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